An optimistic approach is the first step towards feeling confident; believe it or not, your colleagues and superiors will be surprised by this change of attitude and begin noticing you, which would increase your confidence level manifold.
- If you travel without a map or proper directions, you can easily get lost. Similarly, embarking on a career path without a proper direction can make you lose confidence.
- To begin with, create a career map by listing the areas you feel you lack confidence in. This could include your fear of making presentations or your inability to make a quick recovery after you have made a mistake.
- This list will provide you with a better picture of what is dampening your confidence level, and it guides you when you make improvements.
- Also, start adopting a positive attitude. Replace the "can nots" with more "cans".
- Keep in mind that you have the power to choose and make decisions that can have a positive impact at work. You are not powerless to change things.
- Do not become too pressured to effect change immediately. If you are relaxed and focused, you will accomplish more. Remember, you should only compete with yourself.
Don't be shy
- Assume that you have just joined the company, or have just been posted to a new department.
- You may naturally be shy to start making new friends. But remember that shyness results because you focus too much on yourself, your fears, and your insecurities.
- Therefore, start focusing on others instead. Find a common ground. Show genuine interest in what your colleagues tell you; do not just nod mindlessly.
- Use the other person's name when you speak. This not only makes the conversation more personal, but it also helps you remember names more quickly.
- Finally, do not underestimate the power of a smile. A smile speaks volumes and makes you more approachable.
- Once your peers accept you, you will feel better about yourself.
- It may sound ironic, but taking risks actually boosts your self-confidence.
- You just have to adopt the right attitude at the beginning.
- Assume responsibility for the risk and have clear ideas about where you are heading.
- Having a positive attitude towards risk-taking is a good way to make great strides forward.
Do not fear criticism
- Do not be caught up in the emotions brought on by criticism. Your confidence should not be hurt by inflated words like "always" or "never".
- Do not go into immediate denial or counter-attack mode. Instead, consider the source and decide if the person really has the expertise or knowledge to make his or her comments.
- If you decide that the words are not just empty accusations, look at it as an opportunity to improve yourself.
- Forget trying to control what others think of you. Instead, control what you can - your own thoughts and feelings.
- If you are doubtful about the colors to choose for your clothes, start safe and go with neutral and discreet tones.
- Wear colors that you feel might suit you. Being comfortable with how you look often translates to being comfortable with who you are.
- And, as you become more certain of yourself, you can spice up the look with a little color.
- Women can enhance their look with colorful scarves and accessories, and men can get away with colorful ties.